How to gain control of your free time – Laura Vanderkam
26 de outubro de 2018
Case Study
31 de outubro de 2018
Unhappy marriages can break the heart
A research study says unhappily married people have a higher risk of getting divorced. A bad marriage is riskier for older women because of the stress of being in a bad relationship gone wrong. The study is from Michigan State University. The leader of the research, Dr. Hui Lui said the stress of an unhappy marriage has a big impact on the health of our heart. Dr. Lui said older women have more heart problems because they are more caring. A wife is more probable to care for her sick husband than the other way round. Also, a wife can get stressed if she is sick and cannot look after her husband.
Dr. Luis’s team studied the health of 1,200 married people aged 57 to 85 over five years. The researchers asked the couples questions about their marriage. They asked if they spent free time with or apart from their partner. They also asked if they could trust their husband or wife, and if their partner asks them to do too many things. The doctors looked at the quality of the marriages and compared this with the number of heart attacks people had. People in bad marriages were more depressed, more obese and had higher blood pressure.
- TRUE / FALSE: Are the sentences true (T) or false (F)?
| a. | An unhappier marriage gives men more health problems. | T / F |
| b. | The study is from Cambridge University in the U.K. | T / F |
| c. | A researcher said husbands are a little more caring than wives. | T / F |
| d. | A wife can get stressed if she is too sick to take care of her husband. | T / F |
| e. | The study looked at 1,200 married people in their 40s and 50s. | T / F |
| f. | The couples were asked about how much time they spent together. | T / F |
| g. | Researchers compared the quality of marriage to heart attacks. | T / F |
| h. | Unhappily married people were more overweight. | T / F |
- MARITAL STRESS: How can we help couples stressed about these things? Complete this table.
| What kind of problems? | How to solve them | |
| Money | ||
| Housework | ||
| Communication | ||
| Love | ||
| Lack of time | ||
| Bad habits |
- LOVE: Rank these items. Put the best ways a husband or wife can show his/her love at the top.
| • ________a kiss
• ________share the housework • ________say, “you look nice” •________buy presents |
•________go for a walk together
•________thank them •________say, “You make me happy” •________hold hands |
- Read the statements below and say whether you agree (A), D (disagree) or PA (Partially agree).
What’s the secret for a long lasting marriage?
- ( ) You must give up everything you like.
- ( ) You should give up your single friends and make new friends as a couple.
- ( ) You should give in all the time to avoid conflicts.
- ( ) You should know everything about your partner’s financial life.
- ( ) You should talk to you partner about many issues like having children, saving money, investments, moving to different places etc. before you get married.
- ( ) You should open up about your past.
- ( ) You should have privacy in your marriage.
